Am I a boss now?
I’m not really sure. People we talk to seem to think that I am, but I don’t really feel like one. And I’m not really comfortable with the idea of being the boss of my wife. That seems a little possessive and archaic. Throughout the tenure of our 14 year relationship, we’ve always valued each other as equals.
Also, I don’t know how to be a boss. I’ve never had any formal training or on-the-job experience in “bossing” or leadership.
Come this March, I will have worked for myself full-time for the past 10 years. I suppose that means I’m pretty good at being my own boss. But even then, I’ve got my doubts. I feel like I can be doing better. Scheduling my calendar better. Running things more efficiently. Remembering to be “big picture” oriented instead of getting stuck in the weeds. If I was truly a good boss of myself, I’d be on top of all that stuff.
Yet somehow, I need to be a leader, an educator, a mentor, and a supporter to my wife who is joining me in this business. She’s making a career change and entering something totally new. I’m the one who has been doing this stuff since the time the dinosaurs walked the Earth.
But the truth is, Daniella is a better boss than I am. She’s done it professionally. I’m hoping that when she settles in to this new life we’re creating that she can act as a bit of a boss to me. I want her to set a schedule for me. To tell me what I should be working on. To keep me on track to accomplish our most important goals, and to help determine what those goals should even be in the first place.
If she does all of that, does that make her the boss?
I don’t know. Maybe?
Or maybe we’ll do all that stuff together. Because we’ve always done everything together. Maybe we’ll act as accountability partners to each other and help each other determine what our goals and priorities should be. Maybe we’ll face each new challenge together in our new business partnership, and come up with a collective solution that feels right to both of us. That sounds like the most likely scenario, but it doesn’t make either one of us a “boss.”
Can you have a successful business without a boss?
I think so. Or at least I think we can, because our business is only two people and we’re each coming into this as equal stakeholders.